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November 2, 2002
Nice Guys Finish Last ...
I was told in a meeting this week at work that I was too accomodating. I find this amusing. I didn't realize there was such a thing. I always thought that being nice and being helpful were good things. I like to help people and do whatever I can to help.
I find it even funnier because I have been told this in the past. A few years ago at a Christmas party for my old company, one of the women who worked in the parent's company (after a couple of cocktails) yelled at me for being too nice and told me that's why I had such trouble getting women.
All in all, rather amusing. I wish I could be less nice, but I guess I just enjoy being nice and helping out. Was just the way I was raised. Ya know, if people don't like it, they can just deal. Ohh, was that me almost being mean? Maybe I could get good at this :)
Posted by Skadz at November 2, 2002 11:25 AM
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I've been told this too, and I think too nice is when you dont put yourself first for anything, or you hide the truth about what you want to find out what the other person wants so you can give it to them. people dont want to worry about whether you are just trying to make them happy (because they can do that themselves) and worry about whether your making yourself happy and thus end up being too nice themselves. :) hah, that probably wasnt understandable.
Posted by: Faith at November 2, 2002 9:53 PM